My Fella and I have been together for ages and as is the modern way, have bought a house and had a baby before getting married. We have decided to get married this summer but want a small ceremony; we are only inviting immediate family and close friends. Cue all the wedding politics associated with not inviting everyone! To mitigate this, we send a card out to family members with a poem from our daughter on it to explain our decision and invite people to have a drink with us when we next see them. It was received really well, I think we have avoided a family feud!